To perform a Handfasting ritual, the officiant will create a blessed space with the four corners representing the elements of air, fire, water, and earth. An altar with one large candle, representing the couple together, and two smaller candles, representing the bride and groom individually, are placed in the North position of the space. The bride and groom light the larger candle together from their individual candles to symbolize their joining. This part of the ceremony is similar in function to the American Unity Ceremony used in religious weddings.
Gifts, birthstones, and other symbolic elements representing air, fire, water, and earth, are also placed on the altar.
Next, readings and blessing from designated guests are read. After the readings, the officiant will call upon the spirit to bless the union and will tie the couple's hands together. The bride's right wrist is tied to the groom's left wrist. The couple then exchanges vows and rings and drink from a wine glass before their hands are untied. The untying of the wrists represents the couple's independent wish to be joined together.
The newly married couple is given an ivy wreath made of flowers chosen by their guests to represent their well wishes. The couple then leaves, traditionally, by walking under a floral archway while being sprinkled with flower petals by onlookers.
There are many ways to add a Handfasting ritual to a wedding ceremony. The materials and process varies from historical and cultural traditions. Although it can be performed a number of ways, each ritual is a beautiful recognition of two individual lives joining together steeped in culture and love.
